Whew! The first date was tough. The second was easier – and more fun. The third found you in bed with her. Somehow after 3 more dates, you two are a couple. Now, something has come up that directly affects or might even prevent your relationship from moving forward – what do you do? Why Can’t a Woman Be More Like A Man? From birth, women begin studying relationships. This continues the rest of their lives. Men on the other hand get very little relationship training before “hitting the field”. When relationship issues come up, women expect men to handle them at a woman’s level. Frankly, men just don’t have the tools to do this. So, they end up making a bad situation worse, committing to more than they wanted to or worse yet, lying. “The Test” “The Test” is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by a woman right about this time in the new relationship. It can take many forms – from not calling when she promised, to “forgetting” a date, to pulling something so egregious that it knocks the man right off his chair. Make no mistake about it – women learn to “test” their men from very early in their relationship training. Think not? My friend, then you just the kind of guy that walks in front of the target! “The Test” is so pervasive in the dating world that it is even looked at with humor. In fact, it is so common that most people (men AND women) don’t even realize that it happens! You’ve seen movies and television, read books and articles, etc. where it is dealt with as “that cute situation” a man is placed in order to win his woman. Do men test women? Yes – it sometimes happens, but not very often. The reasons for this are: 

To be continued as below...

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young adult - dating tips:

1) Men don’t really know how to test women; 

2) The Test is designed to pre-qualify a love interest, and frankly, men aren’t choosy in the same ways as women; 

and 3) Men use other techniques to win their loves;

and 4) Men often assume (incorrectly!) that women think the same way they do. 

When men DO test women, it is usually because of a low self-image or they don’t really have an interest in the woman in the first place. Women test because of a desire to be with the “right” man (Mr. Right)! Women want men that can pass their tests. This shows them that their man is strong and capable and worthy of their affection. Fail the test and you’re either going to get more tests, or lose the woman altogether.            

                          Continued to part II     

By Dr. Dennis W. Neder, he is the author of 
Being a Man in a Woman's World
P.S. - Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. For more information about my book, “Being a Man in a Woman’s World”, visit: www.remingtonpublications.com 

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