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Boy-think - Do you want sex now or now?
While the female is off on in fantasyville. The male of the species will be in his own
fantasyville. And generally he won't be dreaming about domestic bliss with 'new squeeze' five
years down the line This guy is much more likely to be fantasizing about the next five minutes
and what horizontal activities he and the new squeeze could be getting into!
Genera-lies-ations
While the male plans the upcoming shag, the female is planning the wedding, the honeymoon,
the children and the silver wedding celebrations. True or true?
True for some, and, naturally, there are those who don't fit this generalization. Plenty of women
are getting hot thinking about shagging a guy they've just met, while some men will be
thinking about how nice it might be spending more time with this gorgeous female. I do have
my doubts as to whether many men start planning weddings and children after the first date.
Andy didn't fit the generalisation. Sure he wanted to shag Liz. He probably wouldn't use that
word. He'd be much more poetic and women melt at that stuff. Andy had a vision, a sense of a
nirvana-like life with Liz, this wonderful goddess. This stuff is great when you are in a
relationship and get close. Mutual tantric adoration is very, very, powerful. Andy was acting as
if he and Liz were a perfect match but how could he be sure so soon? He didn't know her
really. Knowing someone takes time. Andy didn't think he needed time, he was sure, at first. He had created a perfect image in his
mind. For the first few weeks he matched Liz to the perfect image. He had to do a bit of deletion
and for a while he kept the fantasy going. Then reality set in. Andy is confronted with a flaw
in Liz. He can't blot it out. Panic stations. Liz doesn't match. She isn’t perfect. She’s human.
She's not a goddess...The idol falls and breaks on the ground.
To
be continued as below...
Perfect perfection seeker seeks perfection
Some perfection seekers also expect perfection in themselves. Perfection doesn’t exist. It's just
an idea. If we subscribe to this toxic story, we will either feel desperately driven to find it like a
holy grail or we would want to stop living because we think we can't get it.
By creating perfection and then expecting the other person to live up to this you can miss out
all kinds of great relationships. Relationships with human beings. We are all imperfect and
that’s the joy of our life. We are all on a path. Everyone we meet has something to teach us.
People are who they are and you either accept them for that and love them even more
because
of who they are, or if they are not a match and fit for you, say bye bye!
You may have already encountered an attraction addict. They are out there everywhere. You
may not detect it easily at first, but peer a little closer, hold back just a little with the planning,
take stock and you will begin to uncover the clues.
If you want to avoid making the same mistakes as Liz, here’s how to spot an AA.
An attraction
addict Case and more...
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P.S. - Peta Heskell is author of the book Flirt Coach published in the USA by Harper Collins/Thorsons in June 01. She runs the UK Flirting Academy, and coaches
clients privately. She is a frequent media guest in the UK and has run workshops in Florida and Amsterdam, Netherlands.
You can access her website at:www.flirtcoach.com
Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:
- If you want your lover to be passionately attracted to you, wanting
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– That is "Instant Sexy Letters"… I highly recommend it.
See what you think... "Instant Sexy
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- Are you always afraid you'd do something wrong, or that the
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- With the divorce rate over 55% in the United States today
(and often higher in other countries), it is important to know
your partner as intimately as possible before taking the
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- To help you have the most enriching and rewarding
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