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Bitch and Moan
You can act aggressively and accuse him and bitch about her. Sometimes he might not have
picked up the signals, even if they are obvious. And if he denies it, it might be because we all
tend to go to the defensive when someone accuses us. You can choose this way, and if you
do I guarantee you're going to feel like shit overall! It's a bad choice and it doesn't work. You'll
alienate him. Either you learn to live with and enjoy the fact you are with an attractive man and
women will chase him or give him up.
If you start to feel bad and insecure and unsure of him, ask yourself who's in charge of your
feelings? What makes you see this as a threat?
She's a human being
You can do what my friend Janey did early on in her relationship with the guy she later married.
She saw him in a highly flirtatious conversation with an attractive woman so she ambled over
naturally and just joined in the conversation. People do this at parties all the time! She didn't
say who she was, she just joined in and was her scintillating self and eventually the woman just
moved away naturally.
If you do decide to join in, don't stand there menacingly. You are just having a
conversation. Be your wonderful flirtatious self with him especially AND with her. Be interested in her.
If she's gorgeous, tell her. Pay HER a compliment and mean it. I can see why he is talking to
you, you’re absolutely gorgeous. Try it.. in your own words. The only thing is, you have to
mean it. It feels good, believe me. Your boyfriend will see you in a superb light. He will feel
warm towards you.
In your own words, you could tell her how you admire flirtatious women. You could tell her it's
wonderful to see a woman expressing herself. You could ask her how she does it? You could
form a female camaraderie with her. Adopt any of these tactics and she’s much less likely to
pursue your man.
Be exactly what no one expects you to be in these circumstances secure, friendly, flirtatious
and glowing!
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be continued as below...
Letting go gracefully and happily
The challenge and the learning for you is to become content enough about who you are so that
if he does have women flocking to him you can see the positive side of it. You also need to be
secure enough to tell yourself that if were to go off with someone else that's just the way it
goes. Regret is a loser's game.
Instead you can find different ways to frame it.
Perhaps he just wasn't for you in the first place? Be glad! You got a lucky escape early on in the
game – closing down longer term relationships and going through divorce can be messy. If you
aren't desperate, you'll know there's someone waiting for you that will be right for that time.
Perhaps you were expecting more than you'd let on to him? Next time be honest about what you
want?
If it's you he wants...
And if he comes home with you at the end of the day despite the 'traps' set by honey-pot,
temptingly flirtatious women, and he wants to be with you, holding you and wanting you, then
this other woman's interest may just have kindled even more desire in him and good feelings at
being wanted, that you will enjoy an extra special evening together. Mmmm that's kind of a nice
thought isn't it!
I remember someone meeting my man and saying ‘He’s special, hang on to him’ I thought at
the time that's a bit of a toxic story ‘find a man and hang on to him’
I prefer to to demonstrate constantly to him how happy I am being with him. I wouldn't be with
him if I feel unhappy. Let him know what you like about him. Men like compliments too. If
you genuinely admire something about him, tell him. Tell him when he’s been successful, tell
him when he looks good and tell him when he does something you like.
Make him feel good, let him go and remind him of what’s waiting for him when he comes back...
and he will!
Men don't function well in cages any more than we do. Ask yourself are you truly able to let go
and set him free. There's a lot of truth in that old story about setting the bird free and it flying
back to the cage because it wants too. The bird that isn't encouraged to fly, and do what comes
naturally will be constantly dreaming of those soaring heights and freedom and not on looking
forward to coming back to you...
Flirt wantonly with your man and when you give freedom before he longs for it, he'll long for
you all the more.
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P.S. - Peta Heskell is author of the book Flirt Coach published in the USA by Harper Collins/Thorsons in June 01. She runs the UK Flirting Academy, and coaches
clients privately. She is a frequent media guest in the UK and has run workshops in Florida and Amsterdam, Netherlands.
You can access her website at:www.flirtcoach.com
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