Survive an Affair
How Can You Ever Rebuild Trust after an Affair?
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My experience with hundreds of people during the last sixteen years shows that the chances for rebuilding trust depend on some basic behaviors on the part of the person who had an affair:
Being willing to answer your questions, hanging in while you deal with the understandable emotions,
demonstrating a commitment to the relationship by severing contact with the other
person.
Certainly, no one (either the one who had an affair or their partner) wants to drag this out;
it's so painful and uncomfortable that everybody wants it to be over quickly, but it can't be
rushed. So unless both people are willing to commit to honesty and to investing the time
and energy necessary to deal with all this, they're unlikely to make it together; or if they
do, the emotional distance from the lack of commitment to doing what's necessary leads
to a deadened, meaningless marriage. To be continued below...
I can honestly say that I would never have chosen to go through all this in order to get to the kind of relationship we have now; but since it did happen, we learned from it and devoted ourselves to developing a strong bond based on complete honesty and a commitment to fairness and equality. Because of this, our trust is stronger than it ever was before the affairs. P.S. - Peggy Vaughan is a relationship expert, specializing in dealing with the issue of extramarital affairs. She reaches an international audience
through her own Website at: http://www.dearpeggy.com
Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:
Facing
the most painful and devastating experiences, The Affair, you are not
alone. Claimed as the Bible of The Affair, Dr. Bob Huizenga’s
Break
Free from Affair gives you a step-by-step guide
to help you break through the confusion, fear and move on with A
Greater Life ahead. Break
Free from Affair You can save
your marriage TODAY! With impressive success rate of 90%, Dr.
Lee's proven and effective approaches will rescue
your marriage starting from today, and you could have the
relationship of your dreams! Save
Your Marriage... see what you think... I have
found the effective 4-Step "strategy" to help you survive
the relationship crisis, heal your broken heart and bring
back your love. That is called Bring
Back the Love of Your Life! I highly recommend it. See what
you think... Bring
Back the Love of Your Life!
How to have the GREAT
SEX you can ever have in your life? How to have MULTIPLE
orgasms you can have TONIGHT? How to make your partner crazy
about you sexually? Killer
Orgasm, we highly recommend. End
Your Internet Porn Addiction-
Do you suspect that your loved one is addicted to Internet
pornography? What are the options for treatment? How to rebuild
your life free from Internet porn? "Treating
an Addiction to Internet Pornography" explains to you the
answers for the above.
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